1. Reinforce What's Right for You
* the best way to remain optimistic is to associate with other positive thinkers
* don't spend too much time in thinking of past hurts
* wake up happy and start thinking positively early in the day
2. Goal Setting in Action
* set goals that are important to you
* associate with individuals who are goal achievers
* aim your goals high
* be persistently positive and consistently active in moving closer to your goals
3. Have A Game Plan
* start a self-developmental plan. Try writing it on a piece of paper
* begin each working day with a question "What am I going to do today that will lead me closer to my goal?"
* learn from someone who is currently doing what you want to do most
4. Traits Common to Most Successful People
* they have a purpose in life
* they take risks and exercise control
* they solve problems rather than place blame
* they care about quality
* they share their expertise and knowledge
5. Self-Reliance in Action
* set your own standards. Don't compare yourself with others
* start your improvement plan today
* learn to defend on yourself. When self-respect comes from within, no one can take it away
6. Do It Now
* make a list of what keep you from completing important tasks then find a solution
* plan your activities for the week and set priorities a day at a time
* make a list of necessary tasks that you have been putting off and do it
7. Don't Look Back
* don't think too much of your mistakes, you're only human
* concentrate on the lessons to be learned, even the most humiliating experience
* in the face of failure, use affirmative language when talking to yourself
8. Expect The Best of Yourself and Others
* start the day positively with self-talk
* turn your dilemmas into opportunities
* think healthful thoughts
9. Motivation = Desire + Action
* start using "Can Do" in your daily vocabulary
* replace the words "I Wish" to "I Will"
* became aware of desires that motivate you toward achievement and self-fulfillment
10. Steps for Defusing Another Person's Anger
* determine not to get angry yourself, if you're going to calm the other person down
* listen to understand
* speak in a calm voice
* empathize with the others persons' concern
* ask question then offer a solution that meets his mutual needs
11. When The Going Gets Tough
* Reminders - one of the best support techniques is to remind that person of her particular talents, skills, abilities and strengths
* Help to regain Her esteem - when your mate is suffering, she needs to know she's valued, loved, desired and esteemed
* Listen well - your partner needs to talk and probably talk a lot. She may need to repeat herself, to talk, to tell the story over and over again. Try to listen well, she needs to be heard
* Support Her desire to move on - when she's ready, engage her in ideas that will help her to move on by pointing out some events that suggest new options
