HAPPY MARRIAGE?

Getting attracted to someone in a chance to know him more is exciting. Getting into a relationship with person and sharing mutual feelings of affection is even more rewarding. When we feel that we love someone so much. We prefer ourselves in making that relationship complete by walking down the aisle with that person in marriage. This is were ourselves believe that we will live happily ever after. But the truth to this matter is spending the rest of your life living with your spouse is a totally different story. This is the part of marriage with the vows we made to love each other for richer or for poor, in sickness and in health, till death do us part are put to the final test. Falling in love is easy, getting married is not that hard either. But keeping the love alive and making it grow everyday are only easier than done. Many marriages lose their romance only after a few years. What used to be such an ideal relationships suddenly becomes stress out by factors beyond or control: in laws, children, emotional and physical problems, career, pride, competition and finances. Those are some of the things we have to keep balance in marriage. Staying in our feet to do this will takes a lot of patient, perseverance and unselfishness effort. There are times, when couples will fight over the pettiest things, during these exchange of verbal punches. Our suppress feelings of anger, feelings of being understood, taken for granted and being blame for everything can make utterly bitter. And in one short instance lose our loves for our spouse. This is the point where we can give up and leave. The point where we can say "I have enough", "I can't take this" and "Im leaving". There will be trade-off when you decide to move on. You know you can't walk out with your kids and neither you can leave them alone. Even if you find a way to move out. I think your husband would not just let you go without making you feel guilty. He would put all the blame on you again and telling your children that your family was shattered because their mom left them. You would lose both ways. If you stay, you'll be miserable. But if you go, you could eventually become miserable as well. This is the best times to make things that make you feel bad, worth to your advantage.

1st, you have to realized that you are lucky because you are aware that there is problems in your marriage. To your husband, those fights could just be his natural way of asserting his dominants over you. He was not aware that you are just about to explode and called it quits. 2nd, you must realized that you have practically spend all your marriage years together. But you have time communicating with each other, openly shares your thoughts and feelings without getting into the heat of discussion. 3rd, God bless you with beautiful children that had made you more than a prod mom. If you leave, you'll be a proud wife but end up a regretful mom.